People often associate hypnotherapy with weight loss and
giving up smoking. However, in my years of practice, I have seen far more
people for confidence and self-esteem issues.
Low self-confidence and self-esteem is a very common
problem. For some people it’s a general feeling of not being good enough, or a
fear of being found out. For others, they feel a lack of confidence in certain
situations, such as social events, or in meetings at work.
Although a lack of self-confidence is very common, it can
also be crippling. Before coming to see me, many of my clients had been held
back from achieving their full potential. People who lack confidence in social
situations often get very anxious about them and therefore avoid socialising.
This can make them feel lonely. Others, who lack confidence in a work
environment, have often not progressed as far as they could have in their
careers, because they avoided interviews or speaking up in meetings.
However, there is no need to feel like this. You can easy
build your self confidence. Here are eight simple steps to take to increase
your self-confidence:
11)
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22)
Accept
compliments
What happens when you receive a compliment?
Do you immediately deflect or dismiss
it? It’s very common to push compliments away when you have low self-confidence.
From now on accept compliments with a simple “Thank You.” Also, make sure you
accept the compliment in your own mind.
3)
Do
something every day just for you.
Plan something every day that you enjoy.
This is not something you should do, or need to do. It’s something that you
want to do. This lifts your mood and is great for your self-esteem as you are
putting yourself first.
4) Speak to yourself as though you are your own best friend
4) Speak to yourself as though you are your own best friend
Notice how you speak to yourself in your
own mind. We often speak to ourselves in a very negative way. Are you ever
critical about yourself in your own mind? Often we say things to ourselves that
we wouldn’t dream of saying to a best friend. Speaking to yourself in a
negative way has a detrimental effect on your confidence. From now on, talk to
yourself in an encouraging and motivational way. It’s amazing how quickly this
will make a difference to your self-confidence.
55)
Learn
from others.
As children, we learn by copying the
behaviour of adults. This learning continues when we are adults. We can learn
negative or positive behaviours from others. Think of someone who is confident.
Choose someone who is quietly confident, and has an air of calm and being happy
in their own skin. Don’t choose someone who is overly loud or brash. These
people often lack confidence too. Once you’ve thought of someone who has an air
of inner confidence, notice how they behave. How do they speak? How do they
walk? How do they use eye contact? Once you’ve noticed these things, start
incorporating them into your own behaviour patterns. At first this feels a
little artificial, but it soon becomes second nature.
66) Challenge yourself.
If we are anxious about certain situations,
if certain situations are beyond your comfort zone, it’s very easy to avoid
those situations. The problem is, that by avoiding certain situations, your
comfort zone becomes smaller and smaller. As you avoid things, you become more
anxious about less challenging situations, and avoid them to. Until, you become
very limited in what you can do. Challenging yourself reverses this process.
Push your boundaries. Do something every day that scares you a little. This is
a great thing to do. It puts you back in control. You also show yourself that
you can handle various situations.
77) Write down three good things about yourself
When we have low self-confidence and
self-esteem, we often fail to see the good things about ourselves. We can be
very hard on ourselves. Every day write down three good things about yourself.
These could be things you like about your physical appearance, talents you
have, or things you have done well that day. At first this can be difficult,
particularly if you have low self-esteem. However, over time it becomes easier.
88)
Surround
yourself with positive people
We are influenced by those around us. If
you spend a lot of time with people who are anxious are depressed, it will
naturally affect you. Spend more time with happy confident people and it will
bring you up.
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