These are all classic symptoms of feeling insecure in a relationship. When you feel insecure in a relationship you try to reassure yourself by checking what your partner has been doing or by questioning them a lot. You try to protect yourself by preventing situations in which they might cheat. The problem with this, is that these behaviours push your partner away, until your fear of losing them becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The root of the feelings of insecurity, which cause the negative behaviours, is low self-esteem. When you feel insecure you have a subconscious negative belief that,
"I'm not good enough," or
"I don't deserve."
These beliefs are completely false and hold you back in life. Of course you are good enough and deserve to be in a happy relationship, if that is what you want.
These negative beliefs are usually picked up earlier in your life, often from things like being bullied at school, being in an emotionally abusive relationship or being cheated on by a previous partner.
Here are three simple strategies to boost your self-esteem and enhance your relationships.
1) Accept compliments with a "Thank You." Also accept them in your own mind.
2) Do something every day just for you. This isn't something you need to do, or have to do, it's something that is just for you. This boosts your self-esteem as you get into the habit of putting your own needs first.
3) Write down at least three good things about yourself every day. These could be things you like about your physical appearance, skills you have, activities you have done well that day, nice personality traits etc.
Here's the link to a video where I explain these tasks in more details.
https://youtu.be/mTmPMwnVTK4
If you have found this article beneficial please do check out my website for more information about how hypnotherapy can help you.
No comments:
Post a Comment